Hello Hello wonderful kindness lovers! I hope you’ll feel like practicing some kindness on me for being so remiss on chattering in this space for far too long again. This life of ours always has so many balls to juggle.
I’ve been zooming and always have a lot to share but today, I want to talk on some things from a work conference I’m just back in town from.
I had the good fortune of attending a conference on change management in Dallas this past week. The event was great! Packed full of good info and super nice people. Maybe change agents in organizations are naturally inclined to be kind. Whatever the case, I had two favorite things from this conference: the place it was held and the featured speakers.
The place was the really fabulous Gaylord Resort. You seriously need to check this place out and if your travels take you to Dallas, look at this place for your lodging. It was like staying in a biosphere! Beautiful space, nice rooms, lots of live music (my favorite!) good places to eat and drink, and nice fitness facilities. Then, you would enter the conference facilities and they were even bigger and equally as grand! I give it a total thumbs up on a pleasant surprise bonus for a work conference. Here’s a link so you can check it out yourself. Oh and the photo here is me with a work friend and two tall cowboys we came across at the conference banquet. Yee Haw!
The speakers, though, took the conference over the top. Shawn Achor, a Harvard Neuro-Scientist, gave a rousing opening talk on why being positive matters and the advantage happiness gives us. He was talking my language for sure! He had so many wonderful points to make but here were some key thoughts that struck me:
- Happy people are more creative, productive and engaged in life
- A daily gratitude practice is one of the quickest ways to happiness (I’m hoping you all do this. It has ramped up my life into true levels of wonderful and is so simple.)
- Feeling joy turns on learning centers in our brain.
- Helping others often brings more happiness to you then it does to others. (I totally feel this way! Being kind can be very selfish really because it just makes you feel so darn good. 🙂 )
- Check out more of Shawn’s talk here at his very popular Ted Talk which is short and filled with smiles.
So the opening session was power packed with good stuff and the closer might have even been better. New York Times bestselling author, Brene Brown, presented the last session. She focused on the power of vulnerability and how vulnerability ALWAYS walks hand in hand with courage.
It’s so true! When you are being courageous, you are overcoming a personal fear and fear generally comes around fearing you will fail. That others will know you tried and failed. There is a huge vulnerability around that. So to be courageous, you hold on to vulnerabilities hand, look it in the eye, and leap anyway.
For me, and likely many authors, that has come around writing. To write is to put a big part of yourself out there and it comes with a lot of vulnerability attached. In the beginning it surprised me but the more I write, the more wonderful readers take the time to reach out and say the books have meant something to them, the stronger I’ve become about writing. Even the tough reviews have become easier to take.
Brene turned out to be a hilarious story teller and had all of us – more than 1000 men and women – roaring with laughter as she told stories about herself that we could all relate to. I’m sure if she heard my little sharing about writing and the books, her response would be “you must lean into the discomfort.” It’s hard as we all know, but wonderful experiences come when we risk the discomfort and are willing to let ourselves be vulnerable. She encouraged us and I want to encourage all of you in the same way. Whatever you want but are scared of, choose to lean in. There are those who might not support but there is a world of people who need your gifts!
Brene also has a wonderful Ted Talk – one of the most viewed of all. When you have some time of your own, sit down and spoil yourself with her words of wisdom. So powerful!
I hope you all know that you are wonderful and fabulous and gifted and beautiful inside and out and that you are all you need to be. Embrace joy and spread it around!